Posted in random, tagged birth control, dating, hormones, life, murder, parenting, random, sex, single parenting, STDs, suicide, teen dating, teen love, teen sex on August 1, 2009|
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There are many signs that stamp one’s daughter as a young woman – the first bra, the first date, the first boyfriend, makeup, shaving her legs. The list is endless, but perhaps the most significant is when she is on the pill. This is a hard time for the parents in so many ways.
I have never been a parent that is afraid or hesitant to talk to my children about anything. We have very open dialogues about vast subjects. Sex and drugs have always been two primary topics. I am still old fashioned in my beliefs about sex. I do not believe that teens should be having sex. I don’t feel that they are emotionally ready for this endeavor. Many teens enter sex for one of two reasons: their hormones are raging and they lose control, or they are looking for love and hoping to find it through sex.
Our sex conversations have always been on the lines of, “You know I don’t want you having sex (various reasons given), but inevitably, the choice is yours. You will find yourself in a situation where you will make the choice. Before you get there, it is far more important to me that you are protected so come to me and we will get you on the pill.” Of course, there’s also the talk of needing to use condoms to prevent STDs, but being on the pill has been a huge one. If and when she becomes sexually active, I want her taken care of. A teen pregnancy will end her dreams.
My daughter has not decided to become sexually active at this point. For this, I am thankful. However, her hormones are simply out of control during her menstrual cycle. During her most recent flare up, she was sure that I absolutely hate her and brought me a large knife while suggesting that since I hate her so much, I should just kill her now. Yikes. These actions have made it apparent that it is time to put her on the pill.
This scares me. She has a boyfriend and I hope that this won’t be the key that tells them that it is ok to have sex. She has shared with me that they have talked about sex and both want to wait, but the day will come when the decision will be made. I guess it is a good thing that she is on the pill, but it is very hard to watch my daughter become such a young woman.
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Posted in random, tagged aging women, annual exams, birth control, doctor appointments, dvt, elderly women, funny, hormones, humor, humour, IUD, life, Menopause, pap smears, random, tubal litigation, woman, women on July 31, 2009|
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During my last doctor’s visit, I was asking my doctor about birth control options. During the past year and a half, I developed severed health complications which result in me never being able to take hormones. Birth control pills work because of the hormones that are in them. Basically, besides the condom and the sponge, my only two options are an IUD or tubal ligation. All of that aside, during the visit and the conversation, I became aware that I will have to endure menopause without the aide of any medication. OMG!
Sure, menopause is another ten years out for me, perhaps more given family history, but have you ever been around a woman going through menopause? Did I mention, OMG!?!?! LOL Luckily for my children, they will be gone by then. My son may still be around, but he’ll be 18 so he will at least have the option of moving away from me. Unless I happen to remarry, that will leave just me. Just me to battle my mood swings and hot flashes.
I know I’m too young to worry about it, but really, menopause without hormones? OMG!!
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Posted in kids, mothers, parenting, random, students, teachers, teaching, tagged children, fifth grade, grow up, hormones, kids, life, parenting, people, random, students, talk, teacher, teaching, teens on January 12, 2009|
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“GROWING OLDER IS MANDATORY. GROWING UP IS OPTIONAL.”
I saw this on myspace today. I like it. I like it a lot. I am definitely growing older, but I refuse to grow up. Ok, I do have to grow up somewhat. The responsibilities at this stage in my life are pretty endless, but I refuse to give into them. Being goofy and silly is so much more fun. I teach 5th graders. At that age, they are beginning to think that they are too good for being silly. Let me tell you, when they see their teacher acting silly, singing songs, making up rhymes, doing crazy dances to help them remember things, etc., it doesn’t take much for them to let their shields down and have some fun. One student in particular gives me the craziest of looks. It’s simply become a game between us. The more that she looks at me like I have lost it, the odder I get. We laugh, we joke. I tell her to stop giving her parents a hard time. She confides in me that she is being a “brat” at home. It’s all good. During that terrible fifth grade year when hormones are going crazy, boyfriend and girlfriend relationships are being explored, the body is changing, kids don’t know who they are (child, teen or adult), don’t know what they want from life, during all of the demands and stresses and frustrations, they can look back at their teacher and say, “She was nuts!”
Ok, that’s not the impression that I hope to leave on my students, but oh well. So far this year I have taught my students a few songs and dances. During our bookstudy when the book started talking about a fawn, I sang to them the song from Sound of Music – you know, “Doe, a deer, a female deer…” The reaction that I received? Most of them started to sing with me. I taught them a random dance that I made up to help them learn some math terms. Months later, it’s stuck. I look like a complete idiot/dork, but they know what those words mean.
The older I get, the crazier I get. You might find this hard to believe, but I am not really getting crazy, I have just let go of the image that I felt that I had to uphold. I don’t care if my kids think I’m nuts. I don’t care if someone walks in and sees me being a dork. I care that my students are learning and that we all enjoy being there. At the end of the day, I want my students to know that I care about them and I enjoy being with them.
Grow up? Nah. I want to enjoy my life as an off the wall kind of person, not as a prim and proper, predictable person. Someone’s gotta be me, and I think I’m doing a pretty fine job of it.
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It’s not often that I say this. In fact, I’m not sure that I have EVER said this, but please let me be PMSing because I am just way too emotional and I don’t have time for this. At least if I am PMSing, I know that it is hormones and will be over during the next few days, right?
I can’t seem to kick it in gear, either. I have a paper due tomorrow. It’s a research paper and only a couple of pages long. Papers in general are no big deal for me. I can crank out papers relatively quickly and easily. However, this one is a research paper so I can’t just crank out a paper and call it good. I actually have to go dig around for some information and the truth of the matter is that I don’t want to dig around for it and I could care less about the topic.
I am working on my master’s degree. I am already in the field, so the topic is just more of the same of what I do every single day, but I have to find “evidence” that it is out there and that it is out there in three states. OMG. We all know it’s out there. It’s everywhere. It’s all over the freakin’ news. WHY do I have to find my time citing sources about it? Just let me write the damn paper.
I need to spend some time with my kids. I need to clean my house. I need to unpack some boxes. Tomorrow I need to meet a colleague for some off-hours work. In the evening we are going over to a friend’s house for dinner. I really need to get this paper done TONIGHT. So why is it that I can’t get myself going on it?
I don’t have time to procrastinate and yet, here I sit writing a blog because I would much rather do that.
Don’t you like how my opening paragraph has absolutely nothing to do with my blog? However, like all good writers, I have managed to tie it back into my paper for a proper closing. I did not do so smoothly, though, because, well, I simply don’t care. You see, this is my blog and I can ramble and whine any way that I choose. I just can’t expect you to actually read it.
Ok, the next blog, I promise that I will make it more interesting. This blog, there just isn’t time. I HAVE to get that paper written! Anyone want to write it for me? Anyone?
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